Momma has lost her mind.

I Don’t Get Angry When My Mom Smokes Pot.

She is clearly a criminal.
She is clearly a criminal.

I think the war on disease and suffering trumps the war on “drugs”.  I use air quotes because it is difficult for me to equate marijuana with harmful drugs like Lortab, Soboxone, Oxycodone, crack and heroin.  I’m not a radicalist or a liberal (maybe a little) or a conservative or a tree hugger (I’ve only met a few I’d like to hug).  I’m a realist.  And it is beyond time for us to get real about the possible treatment and even healing abilities of pot.  By the way, the title to this post is an ode to Sublime, if you caught that then awesome kudos to you.

The reports that NY, my (unfortunate) home state, may be next in line to legalize marijuana for medical purposes is what triggered this post. I am not claiming to have an opinion on this matter based on anything other than calling it like I see it.  I see a need.  I see misinformation.  I see a lack of information.  I see people making bad choices in their lives, like some people will always do, and legitimate proof of this plant is denied because of it.

I’ve seen and read about the benefits of pot.  However, nothing solidified my belief that it is inhumane to ignore such benefits quite like a CNN Special Report called “Weed”.  Please, if you are on the fence about this issue or you just want to learn more, watch this.


Because of what he learned while doing research for this report, Sanjay Gupta, a neurosurgeon, professor of neurosurgery and well known chief medical correspondent for CNN, has done a complete 180 on his views of marijuana .

Dr. Gupta’s portrayal of Charlotte Figi is moving and astounding. Charlotte is a six year old little girl that has Dravet Syndrome.  The use of the Cannabidiol (CBD) chemical (the one that doesn’t get you high) found in marijuana was used to rid her of the more than 300 seizures a week she was having. This video, an excerpt from his special report highlighting Charlotte’s story, is one that should go viral.  It is difficult to watch in spots, I won’t lie.  However, because of that, it will affect you deeply, no matter where you stand on the issue and especially if you are a Mother.

Besides what I’ve seen and heard on the news and other forms of media,  I have a personal perspective to put on this.   I’ve seen first hand the absolute destruction chemo meds and narcotics used for pain management can have on a persons body and mind.  I’ve also seen how a few puffs of a joint relieve symptoms and side effects that wreck havoc on a person’s quality of life.

I was 15 and watching my Mom undergo chemotherapy to treat her cancer.  I watched her mind deteriorate and hallucinate from her meds and make her physically sick as a dog.  She could barely ever eat.  If you have ever had to watch a loved one go through the process of treating cancer, I’m sorry.  It’s heartbreaking.  I watched her once take two hits of pot (she most definitely did not find said pot hidden in the back on my stereo where the batteries go) and was able to eat a burger.  A freakin’ burger when 30 minutes before, she could barely manage to tolerate water.  Her spirit even lifted and she was a tad bit of her funny, old self.


I’m not claiming that there are no negative effects to debate.  I’ve seen people put pot in their pipe instead of healthy food on their kids plates and that is inexcusable.  As a previous professional in the field of mental health, I’ve seen people with mental health disorders use pot to cope and in some cases, like veterans and survivors of abuse suffering from PTSD, it has worked for them.  However, in others it was dangerous and almost lethal.  Paranoid schizophrenics should not smoke pot.  Neither should 15 year olds.  There are limits, common sense approaches and a time and a place for everything.


Denying a person something that could possibly improve the quality of his or her life is inhumane.  Treatments backed by big pocketed pharmaceutical companies usually end up back firing right out of your ass…literally.  Side effects, such as anal leakage, are destined to become the butt of a joke.  Pun intended.  Having said that, the level of addiction that is directly related to over prescribed “treatments” is absolutely no laughing matter and alternative like medicinal marijuana need to be taken seriously.

I believe in science.  I’m a Mother that has seen her Mother suffer and then benefit from something that, somehow ,is still branded as dangerous.  I’m a Mom that believes Charolette’s parents should have been informed about how a chemical from a plant could have prevented the over 300 seizures a week that caused permanent damage to that baby girl’s brain while her family, including her twin sister, had to sit by feeling helpless.

Parents will not have to be any more concerned about their kids getting high than they are right now if medical marijuana is legalized.  Any (good) parent is already teaching their children the responsibility of following rules, moderation and the consequences that come with ignoring limits.

I cannot believe that a regulated medical marijuana dispensary in a town near you would be dangerous.  I worked in a small town that is statistically higher than average in poverty, unemployment and high school drop outs and has bars on every corner and fast food joints encasing the local Wal-Mart.  How is that not deemed dangerous?

I am anxious to know how you feel on the topic of legalization of marijuana both for medical and recreational reasons.  Are you a parent and does this play in to your opinion.  Have you witnessed a person benefit from pot?  Have you seen it do damage that leads you to believe it should be off the table no matter the case?


13 thoughts on “I Don’t Get Angry When My Mom Smokes Pot.”

  1. Thank you for a beautifully stated post. I am a mother and grandmother who watched her own precious mother battle breast cancer which ultimately moved to her bones and liver. She was in so much pain at the end, but didn’t want her mind to be fogged with prescription painkillers. Years earlier when she had extreme back pain that the doctors couldn’t explain, they gave her prescription hydrocodone, which caused terrifying hallucinations and nightmares that left her weak and helpless. How I wish that she could have eaten some medicinal marijuana brownies or cookies (she wouldn’t have smoked) to ease her pain.

    And yes, I got the Sublime reference! – Fawn

    1. I’m sorry to hear you had to watch your Mom go through that. It’s about the only memories I wish I could truly erase. The issue of treating pain is an epidemic in the country. We go about it in all the wrong ways. I can’t understand why that is the case. Well I guess I couldn’t if I didn’t accept the fact that money rules. It’s always about the dollar. I’m glad you could appreciate this post. I wasn’t sure what kind of reaction I would get.

  2. Honestly… I don’t have anything interesting or relevant to add. My own experiences and exposure to marijuana are woefully uninteresting and would contribute nothing to this conversation. I’m right there with you on how ridiculous it is to compare it to prescription pills or street drugs. I need to check out this video you shared. Thanks for this!

    1. Thanks for reading and yes…definitely check out the video if you can. It’s worth the watch. I was hesitant to voice my opinion on this issue but I just felt like I had something I really wanted to say …and so I did.

  3. Hi,

    I agree completely with your proposals. You have very clearly & powerfully demonstrated some of the contradictions & inadequacies of law and apparent consensual rules associated with pharmaceuticals.

    I’ve watched others struggle with & have personal experience of dealing with chronic pain & have been prescribed conventional morphine based pharmaceuticals & have suffered the multiple well documented side effects. Pain management is a complex issue & one that should not be further complicated by ill informed political agendas. The ability of carbinoids to moderate & control neurogenic pain is well documented. Not to utilise this option is the greatest crime.

    Having grown up in a large city within which gaining access to legal illegal substances was relatively simple, & being a father of two teenage daughters I am naturally concerned about the direct and indirect impacts of inappropriate drug use. We all, like it or not, live in a society in which wide spread drug use occurs. In truth, the one that I’m most worried about is alcohol….

    Im no anarchist but when it comes to the application of Law, as you infer, to (miss) quote Dickens “…if that is the Law then the Law is a ass & a idiot…”

    1. Thank you for reading and responding with such a well said and thought out response. The ease to which anyone, teenagers included, can get their hands on the “real” drugs is so very scary! People say “it’s nothing new” but it is…addiction wasn’t promoted with legal drugs the way it is now.

  4. i administer at work: morphine, dilaudid, oxycodone, methadone, ativan, ambien, zanax and a number of other lethal yet legal drugs. these drugs do absolutely nothing to enhance the patients’ lives, it only creates some addicts. i would rather see the people light up with some legal weed and start eating better, socializing and having a better quality of life. Big pharmaceutical companies will never allow country-wide legalization of marijuana because it will cut into their market. They are the exact same as ghetto street corner drug dealers wiping out the competition. And that whole lame argument about kids becoming weed addicts is 100% ludicrous when alcohol is legal. As a sidebar, we have 12 year old kids on Adderal and Ritalin. Those are phucking amphetamines. Really!? What ever happened to going outside and playing in the street? But i digress. This country doesn’t remember Prohibition and all of the crime and violence it spawned. Politicians are such hypocrites. They only care about the lobbyist who donates them the most money. They are lap dogs, but let their family member get a debilitating disease and they will do anything to treat that person. Nothing will change until we stand up and say enough is enough. Stop the bigoted, ignorant, bible thumping minority from destroying the lives of the majority. Stop being afraid to speak out. and by the way, great post!

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